If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!

~FIL has gone to work in CA.  Leaving MIL pretty much helpless with an 18 yo son who only cares about his girlfriend and a ride and a 13 yo son that is fine as long as he is watching the latest movie or playing the latest video game.  MIL is seriously considering a divorce.  Yes, FIL is a piece of crap IMO, but he is not the only guilty party in the relationship.  On Christmas Eve, their POS car blows up.  So, hubby has to go pick her up, help her finish running her errands and then take her home.  She ends up not even leaving her house or seeing anyone on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day (pity party of one!).  Yes, I feel bad that her hubby has left her to tend to everything herself and that her kids show her absolutely no respect.  However, she does nothing but bitch and complain.  She contributes absolutely nothing to the marriage.  She will not take care of herself ($$$-wise).  She has no job b/c she has so many ‘ailments’.  Yet, she worked as a cashier at the local grocery store for almost a year a couple of years ago.  Hello???  Why would her hubby want to stay home?  To hear her nag about money when she is doing absolutely nothing to help?  I’d be pissed and want to get away too. 

Well now that FIL is out of town, my hubby is the one that is constantly having to rescue her and do things for her.  School started back this week, but she still had no vehicle.  So, hubby had to drive about 30 mins to her house, pick up his 13 yo brother and take him to school another 30 mins away.  I wouldn’t mind it, but it’s like this all the time.  It’s always something.  She always needs something.  She absolutely refuses to do anything for herself.  I just want to tell her to put her big girl panties on and deal with it!

~Christmas: So, it was crappy that MIL was having her pity party and wouldn’t go anywhere on Christmas.  Christmas eve night (actually, Christmas morning) the little one wakes up at around 2:15 am and is just crying.  We wait to try to let him cry it out.  At 2:45, he’s still crying, so we go get him and sit up with him.  He cries for a bit and then is just wide awake.  So, we end up doing Christmas at 3 am!!  He loved all his presents!  We’re up until 4:30 (and throughout all of this, my stomach was killing me.  I was so sick!) and finally hubby and I are just sooo tired.  So we lay the little one back down for bed and we all go back to sleep.  We get up at 8:30.  Our entire Christmas schedule is off now (as we had planned on leaving around 8:30.  We go to my parents’ house.  Daddy is not in the Christmas spirit.  With everything that has gone on this year, he says it just doesn’t feel like Christmas.  So that was just a bummer.  We leave there around 3:30, and head to hubby’s grandparents’ house.  We’ve  missed dinner and practically everyone has left.  So, we’re eating leftovers and realizing that the little one has a very high fever.  He’s been congested for about a month at this point, but had developed a cough that week.  He’s coughing pretty bad and is really hot and grumpy.  We leave the grandparents’ house and head home. 

I call the after-hours clinic at 5:15.  Next available appt is 7:30.  Ok, we’ll take it.  to make a long story short, they gave him 3 nebulizer treatments and could not make his wheezing go away or bring his heart rate up.  They admitted him to the hospital at 11pm on Christmas day.  They discharged him at 3 pm the next day and said it was viral bronchiolitis that had caused an asthmatic attack.  He’s doing much much better now.  And the day after all of this, his ears started draining.  He had tubes put in on 11/30 - and it’s a good thing or else he would’ve had an ear infection on top of everything else!! 

~On the way home from the hospital, the car starts acting funny.  :(  It needs either new spark plugs or coil pack.  Luckily my dad is coming down tomorrow to look at it and hopefully fix it.  We were thinking about trading it in for something more fuel efficient.  I think we’re going to go look tomorrow and probably go trade it in next weekend. 

~money sucks.  We had no money to fix the car, so we had to take back hubby’s Christmas present from me ( a $200 dvd recorder) in order to pay for the parts.  I told him he has to back my present too ( a digital picture frame) just to make it fair.  He has a birthday coming up next month, plus valentine’s day, plus wedding anniversary in March.  So I’ll make it up to him then and he can make it up to me sometime too. 

I hate that when FIL goes out of town, I lose my husband.  Yes, now he has to take care of his mom.  And b/c she is so needy and whiny, hubby spends more time with her, more time talking to her, has to stop by her house like everyday.  It’s like I’m being punished b/c I can fend for myself.  It never fails.  This happens all the time.  She always has to call hubby up and cry on his shoulder over her latest and greatest crisis.  There’s always something happening.  The last time FIL went out of town, someone supposedly threatened to beat up MIL b/c FIL owed them money.  Now, FIL just left last week, and this person has started it up again.  So DH has to like go over there in case a brawl breaks out or anything.  It’s ridiculous.  And, we’re going to have start supporting her as much as we can money-wise b/c he (FIL) found out that he won’t be making as much money as he had first been told.  And by the time he pays for hotel, food, gas, there won’t be much of anything to send home. 

So we had the shower on Monday.  She got a ton of presents(which we had no idea what they were, but we bought them.)  But do you know what they brought for food?  A cake, a bag of candy, and peanuts.  THAT’S IT!!  My boss brought in brownies and they asked one other lady to bring in chips.  But they only brought in a cake for the party basically b/c no one opened the candy or had any peanuts.  It was really nice that the diabetic people in our department were nice enough to donate but yet couldn’t enjoy the food since they did a piss-poor job of ‘catering’ the shower. 

Then when the HR dept head handed her the card, she said, “I just signed everyone’s name.”  Now we have ALWAYS passed around the card for everyone to sign their own name and note if they wished (even for occassions outside of our departments - like retirements or people leaving).  I could not believe that I couldn’t even sign my own congratulatory note.  Basically, they just wanted our money and then for us to stay out of it.  I was very upset with the way it was handled.

I know they were excited, but other people besides them like this co-worker and I could have done a heck of a lot better job than what they did.  I thought it was a pitiful excuse for a shower.

The little one is going to get tubes in his ears on Friday. We have to be there by 6:30 Friday morning. good thing I’m an early bird!! Hubby won’t like it too much tho!

Thanksgiving went well. Had my fam and hubby’s fam over on Wednesday and had a big Thanksgiving meal. Then on Thanksgiving day we went to hubby’s aunt’s house, then his grandmother’s house, and then to see the meadow lights. I love going to the meadow lights every year! There are so many lights and they have an old-tyme country store with TONS of old-fashioned candy! wonderful! We got the little one’s pic taken with Santa - he didn’t much care for Santa. ‘Course when he’s got mama, he’s not one much for strangers anyway. Oh well!!

Then on Saturday I woke up sick - had an upset tummy. After a couple of hours I finally threw up. Wouldn’t you know it, but DH was throwing up 30 mins later as well. He felt fine after getting sick; however I did not. I was sick all day. Tummy felt bettr by night-time, but then I had a horrible headache. I went to bed at 7:30 that night. Felt sooooo much better on Sunday!

Sunday we finally got around to doing some decorating. We put some red rope lights around the posts outside. We bought some icicle lights to hang up, but haven’t been able to hang them up yet. I can’t wait to get the Christmas tree and get it decorated. I think we’ll do that this sunday. Saturday I have a brunch for work that morning and then we’re going to a club for a concert that night. (yay!! A night out!! Finally!) Oh, just realized we might can get the tree on Friday since we’ll be out for Justin’s surgery anyway! yay!!

I gained 2 lbs at WI last night.

I didn’t get up and workout like I intended to the past few mornings.

DH said something last night that made me mad this morning.

DS woke up grumpy this morning, don’t know if he’s sick or just grumpy - and I got grumpy.

I feel like DH and I don’t talk anymore - he just watches TV and I apparantly only spend time on the computer (which I have really slacked up on so it’s now no excuse).

The house is a total mess and I don’t know what to do with it all. We have stuff that we need to store but have not storage space. I don’t really want to pay for a storage unit but probaby will have to.

I hate that I am so tired by 8 pm that I end up going to bed and get nothing done.

I hate being broke. I hate not owning our own house. I hate that it will probably be years before we can.

I hate that my DH won’t step up and take care of his job issues.

I just am starting to feel so depressed. Last time I felt like this was in February. I was still nursing DS. I was so out of whack I thought I was getting PPD 5 months post partum. Then I found out I was pregnant, which then turned out that it was just a chemical pregnancy not a true pregnancy.